From time to time FBD will have a guest blogger writing about subjects which are different from fitness, but under the umbrella of wellness. In this blog Steve Smith selects a topic about remaining calm and relates his personal experience and observations. We think you’ll find his insights helpful, entertaining, and perhaps thought provoking.
We were loading the car after a wonderful weekend of hiking and exploring West Baden and French Lick, Indiana when Laura, my wife, asked me if I had seen her purse. I hadn’t. Guys, if you’ve been married more than a couple of years (for me…it’s been 24!), you may have found yourself in a similar situation.
We unloaded the car. We checked the Villa. No purse.
Laura was getting a bit anxious. I was concerned. Laura doesn’t lose things very often. We calmly talked through where she could have left it. Our first thought was the restaurant where we had been on Saturday. No purse.
Laura called the bank to see if there was any fraudulent activity on the accounts.
But where could it be? I recalled how the car was unlocked on Saturday morning. I never leave it unlocked. Maybe someone was able to “jimmy” it.
Laura was skeptical that the restaurant had a reliable “lost and found” system.
There was no fraudulent activity on the debit card. Then Laura spoke to the credit card agent.
We checked at the Villa office where we stayed — the lady behind the desk said she had $50 stolen from her purse recently, so I guess she wasn’t trying to put us at ease, and we still had no purse.
By this time it had been about an hour since we started looking.
“I’m not leaving this town until I find it!” Laura declared. We had been to the grocery so I jumped out and checked. No purse.
The credit card turned up no unusual purchases.
What kind of thief would steal a purse and not use the credit cards?
Finally, we went to the French Lick Resort where we had been swimming and playing billiards. We hoped that maybe it had been turned in. No purse. As we walked away Laura wanted to write down everything we did. She dictated.
1. We unloaded the car Saturday night at midnight…
“I know where it is!!” Laura said with a bit of uneasiness.
“Where?” I said.
“I put it in the nightstand drawer at the Villa. When we went hiking on Saturday morning I didn’t want to make it easy for it to get stolen,” Laura said sheepishly.
“So you outsmarted yourself,” I said as we both laughed.
We were both relieved, but the miracle wasn’t just that we found the purse. The real miracle was that I remained calm and helpful. I didn’t do what I might have felt like doing – roll my eyes, sigh, tell her what to do, raise my voice or leave her to deal with it while I strolled the grounds.
Like I previously mentioned, we have been married 24 years and occasionally I have lost keys, wallets, Oakley sunglasses…and my wife has been my essential ally in finding them. The least I could do was learn from her example.
What have you learned about yourself lately?
Steve Smith, Personal Trainer and Life Coach at Fitness by Design