What did you ask Santa for this year?

Well, did you get it?  Did you get that Red Ryder BB Gun?

This movie cracks me up.  I hadn’t seen it until the last 5 years or so, because I discounted it as an older movie with a flat plotline.  Boy, was I wrong.  It is played 24/7 on Christmas Day, so go check it out if you haven’t ever seen it.

A Christmas Story is a movie about a boy who wants nothing more than a Red Ryder BB Gun for Christmas, and he’s lobbying for it throughout the whole movie.  Much to his dismay, he is told repeatedly by various sources that he shouldn’t want that for a gift… “you’ll shoot yer eye out!” 

Don’t you love it when people tell you what you DON’T want?  Wait a minute.  How do THEY know what you don’t want?  Or what you WANT, for that matter?  Come to think of it, do YOU even know what you want or don’t want?  …Ahh, let’s just save that for a different blog. ;) 

Instead, let’s focus on that popular question for this time of year.  “What did you get for Christmas?”  Yes, it’s fun to find out what other people like, what’s new, what they find to be exciting, and it’s a super easy way to start a conversation.  So, I get it.  I get why people ask this.  But is that what you really want to know?  When that conversation is over, will you even remember what that person got for Christmas?  And if you do, will you leave thinking, “Heh, heh… I already have one of those.”  Or, “Hmpf.  I didn’t get that.  I’ve never gotten that.  Now I feel like I need that too…”  Ah, not very positive feelings, eh?  So maybe it’s not such a great question after all.  It’s another thing entirely, to ask little ones about their presents because we remember the youthful excitement of opening gifts.  Our motives are pure!  And who’s going to leave a conversation envying a 5-year old about his new lego set, anyway?  In a subtle way, however, we are reinforcing the commercialized message that Christmas is all about the gifts.   

Looking at Christmas from a cultural point of view (not religious – and not commercial), why do people like to celebrate it?  It reminds us to experience joy.  And love.  And kindness.  And compassion.  It reminds us to honor special people in our lives.  To create time with those special people.  And to tell others that we care.  And, let’s be real here, to eat lots of yummy foods.  Sure, gifts are exchanged, and giving and getting gifts as a LOT of fun.  Whether your gift is a package of hot chocolate or a bright, shiny new piece of jewelry – it all says the same thing.  You are meaningful to me. 

So, FBD wants to send you the same message.  You are meaningful to us.  And we want you to tell others in your life the same thing.  Today’s as good a day as any.  But then again, so is tomorrow… and the day after that… you get the idea.

Real.  Positive.  Change.  - Judi